Kiren,

Oh its true. Sometimes people are just too blind... some times strength is a manifestation of weakness for them... Guess you can never really do much abt such people... they wear these blinkers that will never let them see the truth...

Thanks.

p.s Hope ya's doing good.

Some times ... other person should be wanting to accept the forgiveness as well.. not to take it as a sign of weakness but willing to accept for what it represents..

or on the hind sight may be the very perception of mine might be wrong as well.

dunooo..


but nicely passage sups... keep wiriting...

Bina,

I know exactly what you are saying, precisely why I say that forgiveness is for oneself - and not for another. It never is. It is to save oneself from the pain and the heartbreak and whatever else that follows. I hope you understand what I am saying.

sup
yes sometimes forgiveness is enough

but the hurts are so deep rooted that to really root out the hurt and forgive wholeheartedly
takes a lot of doing on your part- that is being realistic about it
one can superficially and w/ well meaning forgive but inside is still raw
hope am making sense

Reff,

You are blest then, if expectations are not your thing. People have sabotaged their lives because expectations got the better of them :-) Thanks for liking :-)

Anita,


Amen to that :-)

sups

you surprised me by the depth...because i have felt that forgiving is for oneself...so that I can move on...and not get stuck...it is not about the other...and when you said it ..I was surprised...and what does worse mean...:))) and seriously I dont make value judgements....so expectations are also not part of my package...:))))))))

As far as writing goes ..you are very good...and you know that:)))

reffy

THAT'S THE ONLY WAY.
thanx.

Anita...

Burned? Well... Might sound like prying.. but its easier said than done. I agree... and to forgive.. and keep forgiving, such that it becomes a vicious circle... then I guess its a scary though.... I think the last line of what you posted here needs to be put in action then and all doors have to pulled inwards and sealed shut.

Thats the only way...

ya Supriya! it feels gr8 2 forgive and move on. but then there's something like a 'next round' most of the time; and a next and yet a next and next... this can be vicious and end with one's death only. so wht do we do? go on forgiving???
here's one on that, with hats off to YOU:

 Next rounds of forgivings

                                  Not all can learn

the art of hypocrisy,

it doesn’t come easy to all;

more than blood,

it comes in breeding

and in rapid use of this skill.

Forgive and forget is easy to say

and easier still to forget after sayin’

that there’ll be no repetition

of those past pain. 

If forgiving is seen as being weak,

no more getting into it again.

If forgiving means being strong,

forgive and feel free!

Masking and pretence

don’t make any sense

and senseless is forgiving these.

Forgive yourself for your foolishness

 and that’s enough forgiving.

The next time some are fooled,

they will be schooled

on how the forgiver ruled.

And the forgiven, poor soul, muled.

So hey forgiver, stop thy bounty.

Amen.