This Age That We Call Ours

Jul 25 2008  | Views 752 |  Comments  (33)
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  cheti posted 3 weeks ago

As always ! You expect so much from every one ! you never give up hope !

I think I kind of see where you are coming from ! And where you are going ! I wish a lot of people had the strength of sense and clarity of thought to be able to walk with you ! But then again thats a sense and clarity from one perspective.

And  It might not be possible for every one to aligh with that perspective ! each one for their own ! The way they deem fit to handle this mutated monster thats human at it core ( hopefully).



  Anne-G posted 3 weeks ago

Supriya

Very very thought provoking. Apathy is on the rise...it is becoming an increasingly desensitized society..and people behave differently in a mob than they would perhaps behave individually.. yet there's times that individuals rise above the ordinary and do spectacular things to help someone in a crisis.

Thanks for telling me about this post in the comment.  Glad to have read it. Will read it again to absorb it in totality :)



  keyaa1 posted 3 weeks ago

Sup

I read this one many times and let it sink. Yes it made me uncomfortable with what I saw not that I had never thought of all this before.
You are right- God did make us good and we were until we were connected with the Supreme.
In this age of selfish passions we exist on a very low plane that is.

"Vasudhyav Kutumbcam" our seers had declared long long time ago, Global village we have it just as a concept to think, to discuss, to just throw the heavy words when in parties may be, but do we ever stop to think about the what its real meaning is no we don't. We don't have time and inclination for that.
It is when we start thinking outside our own sphere of existence we become calm and contented, because then somewhere we start becoming a little selfless.
Many years back it was the was of life to invite anyone who came to the house at meal times to have food, share the simple meal. Yes we do invite our friends but then we order a pizza, I am not sure if we will ask anyone to have food if we had to cook like our grandmother's did. But then this is not because we are bad, this happened due to many reasons.

And I remember my granny telling me as a child to offer homage to the fire, keep a share for the cow, the crow, the dog and let some food there at night if an unexpected guest came. When we care for and help as many as we can we find contentment.In her  times there were no refrigerators right.

At such times the extended families had so many members and it was definitely not easy to know about how each one was related. But now one bothered it was a strong bond which did not need any definition either The joint family had its own disadvantages and broke to give rise to nuclear family and now today within these nuclear families....each one has a different nucleus, each is an island...apathy, indifference rule here. We cannot even share one Television...talk about thinking for others

and when it comes to thinking in times of crisis , like bomb attacks and all, we cling to the restricted circle of our existence and feel secure that all is well in my world...

I think this is enough as a rant

A very thought provoking blog Sup and very well written hats off to you.

keep writing

Nupur



  B S Keshav posted 3 weeks ago

Hmm... Sup, understood & agree only partly what you have said.

Put in simpler words: Apathy is bad. Don't be part of it. As an individual, if you act with empathy, sympathy and the innate goodness (that is a part of everyone - Anne was right - its there)... you will have taken the first step.
 
Now the next part: Why do others do it? Hard to say. Maybe, they have had a bad experience being Samaritans before. Maybe, they have heard horror stories of people being hassled by the Police. This is difficult to correct. Difficult, not impossible. Each one of us must educate ourselves. Find ways in which we can help the person AND keep the cops at bay. When we succeed, get on top of that soapbox and scream. "Hey guys, we did it! It can be done!"

This is only a small part though. It only deals with the passers-by who leave a bleeding accident victim to suffer. What about larger crimes? Like those perpetrated by the jokers we elect. Are we doing anything about that? For God's sake, many of us don't even vote. Isn't that apathy too?

Taking it even further, are we willing to get into the murky world of Politics and do something about it? Or just go yada yada yada in smoky bars or on the net?

To my mind, it has to start with the individual and move outwards. First cleanse ourselves of this dreaded apathy and then try to influence others in whatever way we can. These pages are not a bad place to start. Man , as you say, is not an island.... but not all are leaders. There are more sheep than leaders... try and be the shepherd. That's the key.

cheers,

Keshav



  svengali posted 3 weeks ago

I read this a couple of days back. Didnt know what to say apart from "in agreement" though it disturbed me. A part of me refused to agree too.

I reasoned that if everyone takes care of his family, then all the families in the world get taken care of. If that doesnt work, then vote the govt out. Easier said than done.

And then my cousin passed away this morning. He'd been suffering from cancer. I share the grief and choke up with unshed tears as I feel the pain that my nephews must be going through. Their pain was my pain.

But guess what - the blasts in B'lore n Ahmedabad didnt affect me, just another news items on TV. Many died. But their pain was not my pain. I hope there was someone else to share that grief. The word "Apathy" has set up camp in my head....Have to do something abt it.




  roba posted 4 weeks ago

Hi Sups!

This reminds me of the african saying - 'it takes an entire village to raise a child.
So, I suppose you are right in pointing out that WE are indeed responsible for the apathy of our generation in this time. 

Actually indifference is worse than hate, Isn't it?



  B S Keshav posted 4 weeks ago

Hi Sup,

Thanks for the note... might have missed this, as I'm very erratic on sulekha these days. 

The topic seems very interesting and I've much to say. Only, I will get back to you tomorrow morning as I'm almost asleep on my feet... :-). (Just got back from a hectic four days at Delhi)

cheers,

Keshav



  mallipooh posted 4 weeks ago

Hi Supriya!

Thanks for inviting me:) almost like an honour for a non existent soul like me on Sulekha:)..

I totally believe in the fact that God made everybody good in the beginning and then we chose to get conditioned by life....and we called it " life's lessons" ..these were the set of experiences that each one of us went through and we developed our own interpretation or perspective of the happenings.

In the adventurous rollwer-coaster of life; apathy is just one of the emotions that one gets afflicted by.In the end,it's not what happens to you that is important but what you did abt it that really matters...we're all humans and like you rightly said terrorists and delinqunts are people...every body deserves love and kindness...



  Avinashjee posted 4 weeks ago

You conveyed what you wanted to pretty well.
Loved reading this.
Avinash



  Maria S posted 4 weeks ago

Ms. Supriyad,

An interesting, thoughtful and quite thought-provoking blog!

A few quotes (which are quite commonly used on this topic) came to mind first, as I read your word...

"The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference (apathy)"...
and

"They came for the Communists, and I didn't object - For I wasn't a Communist;
They came for the Socialists, and I didn't object - For I wasn't a Socialist;
They came for the labor leaders, and I didn't object - For I wasn't a labor leader;
They came for the Jews, and I didn't object - For I wasn't a Jew;
Then they came for me - And there was no one left to object
."
- Martin Niemoller, German Pastor


Having said that...I suppose all of us all of us as human beings feel limited in our powers, are selective about how we pick sides in "getting involved" in worthwhile causes/ fights to make a difference...Some situations so blantantly call for universal outrage on humantarian grounds, while others are more specific are deal with long histories and enough blame on both sides. 

I do appreciate your call for shaking of apathy, being alert and watchful and perhaps do find causes of our interest (whatever it may be) and get involved. As humans we tend to be so selfish, self-absorbed and live in our worlds...even more disconnected than ever before- inspite of all the technology and methods of communication available today!

Kudos for reminding us about the basics of humanity and our individual efforts!
best,
Maria





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